Married life is fabulous!

We're about a month and a half into being married, and I have to say that we have taken to marriage like breathing.  Seriously!  When people ask us how it feels to be married, our response is always the same - it's like breathing.  The only real change is that we stay in the same room now.  We spent over 2 years living in the same house, and now we are living in the same room.  I love it!  My name was officially changed to Jessica Phifer two weeks after our wedding... I'm still getting used to it!

I realized that I forgot to give an update about my car situation!  I received a decent settlement on my Sonata, and after a week of looking and comparing cars, I wound up getting a 2009 Hyundai Elantra.  Her name is Ellie (thanks to Travis for coming up with the perfect name!)  She is silver and has been good to me, so far!  She's not Chelsea (my Sonata), but she's almost as good!  Because my settlement was so good, I only had to pay $1,200 for Ellie (actually, I had to borrow the money from my mom, but we have developed a payment plan, and I'm paying her back).  I'm very happy with my selection.  The big points were gas milage, trunk space, and passenger space.  I wanted a car that I could support a family with (we aren't planning on having kids for a couple of years).  I also wanted a car that would be reliable.  I had planned on driving my Sonata for a long time, so I needed to make sure my new car would last a long time.

It wasn't easy looking at and comparing cars, since I am notorious for picking the first thing I look at, but I knew I had my future to think about, and I took the time to get the best car for my needs.  The cool thing is that my Dad's friends (a financial advisor and a car dealer) both told me I picked a great car and made a good decision... coming from them, it meant a LOT!!!  I am still getting used to Ellie, but I am satisfied with my car, and I know she'll last a good while!

Back to marriage:
I have posted a good number of pictures from our wedding on facebook.  It was an amazing day!  We acted fools, which is normal for us ;)  I did miss Daddy, but the emotions I expected to have never came. It was 100% joy!  The "Flat Daddys" (cardboard cut-outs) were a huge hit!  There are many pictures of Trav's Dad and mine.  I have a few pics of Daddy "holding" a beer :)  Life is amazing right now, and I'm just so happy!!!!!!

Now for Nannying updates!
Little Man is 14 months old.  He can run (mixed with face-plants) and knows a lot of words!  HE KNOWS MY NAME TOO!  The family went to the beach, a couple of weeks ago, for a week and when I returned to work last Monday, Little Man was sitting in his high chair, eating breakfast, and when I walked in the room, he looked up with a huge smile on his face and said, "JESS!"  OMG it made my heart smile!!!!!  Let's see... what words does he know....  Cheese, hot, Mama, Dada, ball, book, "baba" (the name he has given his paci), his sister's name, Jess, dog, "uh-oh!" (that's a personal favorite), and the "I Love You" song from Barney (he will start singing it randomly... SO CUTE!)... hmm, he knows more than that, but I'm having a brain fart right now...  He can follow simple directions!  Tuesday, while his sister was at preschool, I decided to take him to the park (he loves the park!), so I asked him to get his socks and shoes that were in the other room.  I realized after I asked that toddlers can only follow one direction at a time, so he only brought me his shoes, which had been the second thing I asked for.  After he brought his shoes, I said, "Ok, I need your socks too!  Can you get your socks?"  He gave me a big smile and got his socks.  Y'all, this kid is SO SMART!!!!!!

I can't believe that it has been almost a year since I first started my Nanny job... When I began working there, he could barely hold his body up... now he can run, say a few words, and follow simple instructions!  It has been amazing watching him grow!  I'm just honored that I was chosen to aid his development...  I have stopped doing much for him, but if he gets frustrated with a task, I help a tiny bit.  For example:  he was trying to get his socks off on Thursday, but was having issues getting it over his heels, so I pulled the socks down over the heel so that he could pull them the rest of the way off.  I asked him if he wanted a snack, and he ran to the fridge, but couldn't get the door open, so I pulled to get past the suction, and he open it the rest of the way :)  He is so proud when he does things himself!

He is also in Preschool now!  Tuesdays and Thursdays.  I was fortunate to get to meet his teachers, as well as his sister's teachers, a week and a half ago.  I felt the need to introduce myself so they would know who I am when I come pick the kids up... though they would have known anyway bc when I went to get Little Man on Tuesday, he was sitting on the floor (the door to the room was open) and when I said his name, he looked up with a huge grin, got up and yelled, "JESS!" while running to me.  I must say that when he and his sister run to me , like that, it makes my heart so happy!  I love these kids so much!!!

As for Sunshine: she's 3 years old and is in preschool four days a week!  I was sad that I wouldn't be able to spend a full day with her anymore, so last Thursday, I took her to get ice cream with Travis.  She ended up with chocolate all over her face, so I pushed my ice cream cone into my face so we would match.  Travis took a picture that we call, "Chocolate Smiles!"  Little girl is also super smart, and SO HELPFUL with Little Man!!!  I'm so proud of how she has grown.  In the year I've been with that family, I have taught Sunshine: how to look both ways before crossing the street, how to say "yes ma'am," "no ma'am," "yes sir," and "no sir,"... my favorite thing I've taught her is the "courtesy flush"!  Whenever she does her stinky business, she flushes so the stink doesn't spread.  Her mom thought it was funny the first time Sunshine did it without me around!

Oh, and the kids have a Southern accent now...  The parents are from Virginia, so they blame me *looks up innocently*  The kids now say, "Hah" (Hi) and "Bah" (Bye).......  My response to their parent's comment about the southern accent was, "My work here is done!"  (which, of course, made them both crack up)

Ok, I di have more to say, but I need to get back to Thank You notes... still working on those from our wedding *looks down shamefully*  So.... BAH!

MRS. PHIFER!

It's official!  I am now Jessica Phifer!  :)  :)  :)  :)  :)

The wedding was amazing!  As soon as the doors opened and I saw Travis standing at the alter, I felt transformed!  I kept my eyes on him as my uncle walked me down the aisle (which felt like it took FOREVER!) and as soon as my uncle placed my hand in Trav's, my heart leapt!  Travis was beyond handsome, and we just kept stealing glances at each other the whole time.  My hands were shaking, but he held them steady as we exchanged our vows and rings.  When our minister told Trav he could kiss me, it was EPIC!  We had people telling us it was the best first-married-kiss they had ever seen!  I just couldn't pull away and neither could he.

My bridesmaids and flower girls were wonderful!  All of them were stunningly beautiful and HAPPY!  Before the wedding, as we were getting ready, my now-sister-in-law (a wedding planner) kept telling me that she had never seen a bridal party as relaxed and happy as mine, which actually surprised me!  Throughout the planning, I wanted to make sure my bridesmaids and flower girls were happy.  Before I even thought about choosing dresses for them, I asked each one what they preferred, and then I went from there.  I let them choose their own shoes (silver, though), do what they wanted with their hair, do their make-up how they wanted, and do what they wanted with their nails.  Comfort was the name of the game!  My happiness surrounded theirs, even though people kept telling me that this wasn't about them - I ignored that selfish idea.  I even gave my hair stylist free reign, but I did have her put my hair up higher on my head.  The only thing I was very specific about was how my nails were done, and that was it.  :)

On the outside, I was cool, calm, and collected, but inside I was a nervous mess!  I kept pacing the room when my bridesmaids and flower girls were sent up to get ready to walk.  It was a beautiful day, and it was a beautiful wedding.  I couldn't have been happier!  Though my bouquet weighed a ton!  Travis carried it for me after we walked out of the sanctuary, bc he's just considerate like that!

The reception was so much fun!  We danced all night, and yes, we got the life-sized cardboard cut out of my Dad and of Trav's Dad.  Daddy was passed around as people danced with him!  As I had hoped, people had pictures taken with him, and I even made him dance with Mom by standing behind him with my arms acting as his...  It was pretty funny!  I managed to work my way around the room, thanking guests and having pictures made, so I didn't get to eat or sit down much!

May I just say that Erin Hubbs was an amazing photographer!  I can't thank her enough for being so wonderful!  She got some amazing shots, and once she gets some of the pictures posted, I'll put a few up on here.

The honeymoon is fun, though not quite a honeymoon, since we came to the beach with another 16 people in tow!  Trav's mom decorated my (our) room at the beach house, and it was just beautiful!  I posted pictures on facebook.  We are having so much fun, and are preparing to head home tomorrow, so I can move my clothes to our room at home and rest a bit before I get to go back to nannying!  I admit, I have missed the kids (who were so cute at the wedding!).

That's all I have for right now.  I just wanted to do a quick post about the wedding!  I AM SO HAPPY TO BE MRS. TRAVIS PHIFER!  :)

WOOHOO!

I have fabulous news!  I'm only had $2200 left to pay on my Sonata, and our insurance is giving me $15200 for it.  After taxes, I'm guessing I'll have $11000 to put toward a new car!  I have my eye on a 2010 Hyundai Santa Fe or a 2010 Kia Optima.  I'm trying to look to the future and need a car that can support a family when Trav and I have kids.  As much as I want the Santa Fe, the Optima might be more logical.  Either way, I'm getting another car.  I loved my Sonata because it was reliable and had great gas milage, so I'd prefer to stay with the Hyundai cars.

Three weeks until our wedding!!!  I'm getting excited!  I have been trying to not eat as much, and because of it, I've lost 10 pounds over the last few weeks.  I'm cutting my portions almost in half, and I can already feel my tummy getting a bit smaller (granted, I'm still a big'un, just not as big!).  My dress still fits me like it did when I tried it on in March, I'm breaking in my shoes, and I have almost got my hair style figured out for the wedding!  I'm so happy!!!!!

I have more to say, but I need to get back to cleaning the house... less than three weeks til family starts to fly in!!!

This sucks!

If there is one thing I tend to hate about myself, it's this: I get too attached to things.  For example - when mom traded in Dad's Lexus for another car, I stood in our den, arms wrapped around Travis, and cried bc that was the last place my Dad was alive (he rode in the passenger seat to the ER).  It was my Daddy's car, and I felt like getting rid of it was getting rid of Dad, as well.

I think I should start the main part of the post with Tuesday night.  We had a nasty storm blow through at around 10:15-10:30pm on Tuesday.  The wind was terrible and it broke a tree off at the top in our neighbor's yard, falling in front of their front door.  I was in a room of the house that faces to same direction as our neighbor's house, and fearing that a tree or branch could come flying at the window, I gathered up some of my things and began to go to the basement.  I got down to the main floor of the house, and heard another loud crack and CRASH coming from outside the kitchen windows... Travis went in there to see what happened and all I could hear from him was, "HOLY SH*T!!!"  I ran into the kitchen and saw a tree where our cars usually sit.... a big tree had fallen and crushed my car and buckled in the sunroof of mom's new-ish car!  (I have pictures up on Facebook if you want to see them!)

Obviously, there was nothing we could do at that point bc the storm was still going full-force!  Well, yesterday (Wednesday), I discovered something about the people in my life - Catherine (the lady I Nanny for) needs me, so she took the time to come pick me up for work (which made me feel good).  My dear friend, Emily, who works from 7:00am til 3:00pm, came to pick me up from work, took me home, and helped me clean out my car for the tow truck (the tree was cut apart by the time I got back).  I learned that we have amazing neighbors, one of which loaned me a car until my insurance sets me up with a rental.  It's times like these that show us who our true friends are, and though most of my friends didn't know about the tree until yesterday after I got home from work, the ones who knew about it when it happened stepped up and helped.  It's a good feeling!

Here's where my over-sensitivity comes in: when I got home from work, mom told me the tow-truck guy was on his way... I realized that the one thing I cherish most was still on the dash (it was a parking pass issued to us for use at the hospital when Dad died)...I lost it.  I actually started crying.  I got in the car through the back door on the passenger side (it was the only one that worked), laid down the passenger seat, crawled into the front, and just sobbed while I cleaned everything out...  When the tow-truck arrived, you would have thought someone had died!  I was so upset!  My last two cars sucked, and if a tree had fallen on them, I would have been so happy, but this car was good to me... it was reliable.  I genuinely loved my car!  It was a great car!!!

It seems stupid, I recognize that, but I actually feel like I've experienced another death.  My car isn't sitting in the driveway anymore, and probably won't be there ever again.  My car wasn't sitting in its usual spot when I was at work today.  The key and remote on my keychain is all I have left of my car.

Anyway, I decided to look up other cars while Little Man took his nap today, but as soon as I started searching for another Hyundai, I started crying.  I saw Sonata after Sonata, which only made the tears flow more.  Mom says I might get a better car than my baby, but I don't WANT another car... I want MY car back, dammit!  Again, I know how dumb this seems, but it really affected me.  I will move on, obviously, I'm just still licking my wounds, I guess.

That's all I have to say right now, I just really really needed to get this out.

5 Weeks!

Holy cow... 5 weeks from now, I will be Mrs. Phifer!  I am so excited!!!!  A lot has happened, so I decided to post a little bit.  Let's see, where do I start...

I had my Bachelorette Party two weeks ago, thrown by my dearest Emmers!  It was a lot of fun, and I'm very lucky to have some wonderful friends!

Good news:  Trav and I got our marriage license last Friday!
Bad news:  one of my cousins, who is a bridesmaid, will not be able to come to town for my wedding!  She lives in Arkansas, and will be 28 weeks preggers by the time my wedding comes around.  She's high risk bc of her age (Under 40, over 35... I won't divulged her actual age!), and her Doc doesn't want her to travel... at all.  BOOOO!  I can't be mad, though, bc I want her to be healthy and to do what is best for her baby!  This does, however, pose a slight problem bc her 6-yr-old son was supposed to be the ring bearer, and he doesn't go ANYWHERE without his mother... so Trav's nephew will be stepping in for us.  As for a bridesmaid, my dear boss will be taking on the role.  I couldn't be happier to have her aboard, since her daughter is one of my flower girls!

Speaking of my boss, I had to take Little Man to the ER two weeks ago!  His mother was out at a business lunch (you would know that the ONE DAY something serious happen, Cath wouldn't be home!!!!!... as you know, she works from home) and I had gone to use the bathroom (which I hate doing while both kids are awake) and wasn't in there for more than a minute.  When I opened the door, I heard a thud and then Little Man started screaming.  I figured he had bumped his head again (he's beginning to walk and falls all over the place).  As I walked to where the kids were, I saw blood all over Little Man's face.... his nose, his mouth, his jammies, and the floor were covered!  Let me tell you how scared I got!  I picked him up and put him in the kitchen sink while grabbing my phone and a paper towel.  I was shaking so badly, so it took a few tries to dial his mom's cell phone, and when I called, she didn't answer.  I called a total of 7 times, too!  I finally called Travis, and he immediately began to head over.

Sunshine had run to her mother's room after having a near-panic attack, which I hated for her, but I was panicking too!  I managed to clean the blood off of Little Man's face and found where he got cut.  It was about a half-inch cut along the bridge of his nose, right between his eyes.  I couldn't get the bleeding to stop bc every time I put pressure on his head, he would shake his head side-to-side, which only aggravated it more.  I called Trav back to get advice, but then decided to dial 911 bc I had no carseat, and therefor had no way to take him to the ER myself.  Travis showed up a few seconds before the firetruck arrived.  (It had been 15 minutes since he fell, so I was working fast!)  Travis stayed with Sunshine while I rode in the ambulance with Little Man.  If it wasn't for the fact that Trav has babysat the kids with me before and was friends with my boss, I wouldn't have allowed him to stay behind... I swear, that man is the best thing that has ever happened to me!

I did finally get ahold of Cath, and she was grateful that I had been able to think on my feet, although I was still freaking out on the inside!  Anyway, Little Man had to get 3 stitches, and they came out last Sunday.  He's doing so well, and was such a trooper when the Doc had to stitch him up.  Turns out, he had slipped on the wood floor and cut himself on the corner of the toy chest, poor guy!  That was one experience I NEVER want to have again!!!!!

I think I have more to say, but I'm about to fall asleep.  I'll post more later, I promise!!!

Royal Wedding

I'm watching a re-broadcast of the Royal Wedding right now, and I had a thought...  Prince William didn't turn around to face Kate as she walked toward him, I guess he wasn't supposed to, but it made me realize that when I walk down the aisle, I will be feeling so many emotions... Elation that I am finally marrying the love of my life, but also sadness because Daddy won't be walking me down the aisle.  I just don't think I'd be able to make it down without being able to see Trav's face.  He is the person who led me through the multiple deaths in my household..... he held my hand as I faced the devastating loss of my Daddy, then Nonnie, and then Willie.  If it weren't for him, I would have been lost.  I have said it before, I think, but as long as I have Trav's face to focus on, I will make it.  I will be able to make it through what will be the greatest day of my life with love and happiness.

I'm growing misty thinking about it, but now Travis is in the room, acting like a moron, and it has made me giggle... that is why I know I'll make it through our wedding without too many tears, because he will probably cross his eyes at some point, which will also make me giggle.  I am such a lucky girl to be giving up my last name for his... I have known nothing but love from him, and I am relying on that love to last us "til death do we part."

Ok, now he's attempting to brush my hair backwards.... um... not so well, actually....  and now I'm laughing again.........

Let's DANCE!

Travis and I had our first private dance lessons today, and OH-EM-GEE (yeah, I went there) we had SO MUCH FUN!!!  I used to dance when I was younger (Teen Cotillion and Color Guard, if that counts) and I had forgotten how much I enjoyed it!  We did mostly footwork for our first lesson, and Trav picked up on it rather quickly (except for one time when I couldn't look at him bc I would start laughing... he was very mechanical, but it was super cute).  Travis even got to spin me a little!  Now, y'all know I'm not the smallest girl in the world, but while I was dancing, I felt like a seductress... it was a wonderful feeling!  We have even decided to continue lessons after our gift certificate has expired.  It was a fantastic workout that didn't feel like one until we were finished.  We just had a blast!  We are going to have a great first dance at our reception!

PAR-TAY!

Friday was our engagement party.  We had a blast!  There were old friends, new friends, crazy future in-laws, and a bunch of Daddy's friends!  It was nice to mingle with everyone, though Trav and I ended up near people closer to our age.  It was fantastic to see so many of Dad's friends there... I am very lucky to have had such an amazing man as my father!  We shared stories of him, talked about the wedding, and played pool.  The food was WONDERFUL!  We had Bar-B-Q, some fall-off-the-bone-omg-fantastic chicken, mac n' cheese, baked beans, fries, and home-made potato chips!  It was so so good!!!!!  We also got a good bit of loot!  Travis and I have decided that our future house will either look fabulous or trashy... my money is on trashy, to be honest *giggle*

I got my shoes on Sunday, so my dress is officially all ready!

I am just so excited and happy!  The only downside is that Daddy won't be there to walk me down the aisle, and Nonnie won't be able to dance at my wedding (she used to say, "Jess, get me a Diet Coke, and I'll dance at your wedding!)... if we had gotten married a year and a half ago, she would have been able to, dammit!  Oh well, I'm really not bitter about it, so please don't get that impression!  My heart is so full of love and joy... I feel like I radiate happiness!

My Emmers has posted some pictures of the party on facebook, so if you want to go and look at some of them, they are slightly amusing... mostly because I actually drank!  CAN YOU BELIEVE IT???  I had two (small) boat drinks!  People were shocked because, well, I don't usually drink... I think the last time I had any alcohol was 4th of July, 2010... wow... that's kind of funny...

Ok, I need to wrap this up and go to bed... NIGHT NIGHT!!!!!

Flower Girl Dress!

I have my flower girl dresses picked out!  :)  I'm way excited about it too!!!  The girls will look adorable!  I also began registering at Target last night, after getting supplies for a scrapbook and new clothes for the various parties that are coming up!

Our engagement party is Friday.  I'm way excited!  I think it will be a lot of fun.  It's on April Fool's Day, and Travis and I are "fools", so it fits! ;)

I found a picture taken the night Travis gave me my ring!  It was when we were at Bingo and won free dance lessons and a chocolate fondue set!  Here it is:

It's kinda small, but I'll resize it later tonight or tomorrow!
 
   

I have more to say, but it's time for class :)  I'll update more later!

Details, details...

Time to work on the details of the wedding!  Mom, Emmers, Sarah, and I are heading to my FAVORITE PLACE tonight!  We are going to Jewelology to make necklaces for my bridesmaids!  Emily is my Maid of Honor, so of course I want her there!  I love making jewelry!  It's so much fun and way relaxing.  Plus, I'm making stuff for my bridal party... of course I'm excited and happy!

We also have our engagement party next Friday (April Fool's Day!)... yeah, Travis and I are the fools... that's the joke (har-dee-har).  I'm really looking forward to seeing all of our friends and family :) It's time to celebrate!

Ok... I thought I had more to say, but I guess not...  I hear Little Man stirring... time to play with the most adorable almost-9-month-old boy in the world!

Object Permanence

Well, Little Man has officially learned about object permanence!  Monday and Tuesday, after I left the kids’ house, Little Man’s mom texted me to tell me he had started crying when I left.  I have to be honest, I was a bit skeptical… until today.  As I was leaving the house, I had one foot out the door, saying goodbye to Little Man, and he started whimpering, rushed over to me, and began to tug at my leg.  C came over, picked him up, and said, “he loves you!”  I stepped on the other side of the storm door (so I was outside and they were inside) and C put Little Man down.  He proceeded to cry, while standing up and hitting the door with his hand.  C brought him outside and said, “that has to make you feel good!”  It did, but at the same time it made me sad because I don’t want him to be unhappy!  Though my heart was filled with joy that he feels an attachment to me J

I’m in class right now (we’re having our break), and we are talking about cognition in infants, toddlers, and two year olds.  Two topics are object permanence and attachment.  Little Man has definitely learned object permanence!  He knows I still exist, even when I’m not in the room with him.  As for an attachment, well, he definitely has an attachment to me.  (I admit, I have an attachment with him!  I adore this kid!)

Little Man is hitting his milestones at a rapid pace, and though it can be difficult to keep up, it makes my job even more fun!

Though I love Little Man, I also love his older sister, Sunshine.  I always enjoy having some time together.  We like to read and play Candy Land (when Little Man isn’t trying to eat the cards or place markers!)  She’s an amazing little girl, and I’m so happy that she is going to be a part of my wedding!

My heart is so full of love.  I love driving into the kids’ driveway, knowing I have two smiling faces waiting for me when I step in the house.  Talking about them to Travis, I get animated.  He says I light up, and he knows how passionate I am about childcare because of the thrill I get from helping the kids develop into healthy people!

Ok, class is starting back… I just had to make a quick post!

Moving Right Along!

Flowers - check, DJ - check, Reception Site - check, Church - check, Cake - we'll find out tomorrow, WEDDING DRESS - C-H-E-C-K!  Yep, I got my dress!!!  I can't describe it on here because Travis reads my blog, but it is WONDERFUL!  It's perfect to dance in and has accessories that will allow me to turn it into another outfit for our reception!  I'm going to be using a tiara that my "boss" wore in her wedding!  So I have my "something borrowed" and my garter is blue, so there's my "something blue"... my "something new" is my dress... the garter belongs to my mom, and it's at LEAST 35 years old... so I have my "something old".  Things are moving along!  I also have my bridesmaids dresses picked out!  I went with my Maid of Honor on Sunday to try her's on, and it looked pretty good!  I'm going with another bridesmaid on Saturday to try hers on, and my cousins in Arkansas will try theirs on sometime this week (thank goodness for David's Bridal in AR!).

I'm happy, excited, nervous, thrilled, and everything in between!  I can't wait for the wedding, but I also don't want it to come too quickly... I know this will all happen very fast, and I want to savor every moment!

Little Man got his first tooth!  It's barely visible, but it's there!  I babysat for the kids Saturday night, and poor guy woke up screaming!  I gave him a bottle and rocked with him until he fell asleep.  The tooth broke through Sunday.  Of course, now Little Man is drooling all over the place!  I am covered in "Little Man Drool"!

I had an amazing experience yesterday!  Well, it was amazing to me...  I was sitting on the couch with Sunshine, and she leaned up against me to snuggle.  She looked up at me and said, "Jess, I love you."  OMG it took everything in me not to start crying!  It was so sweet!!!  I told her I loved her too, and we commenced taking silly pictures of ourselves with the photo booth application on my MacBook.  We took some very silly shots!  One of them is of a "two-headed" Sunshine! haha

Life is good... wait, no... Life is GREAT!

OH!  I think I forgot to mention what the flower guy is going to do with my bouquet!  I have two charms, one with some of my Dad's ashes and one with some of Nonnie's ashes.  The guy making my bouquet is going to incorporate those charms so that I will have a part of my dad and grandmother when I walk down the aisle.  I'm so glad we can do that!!!

Ok, I hear Little Man stirring from his morning nap.  I'm off to take care of the cutest little boy in the world!  He's 8 months old already!  He's all over the place!  Pulling up, and now he can walk while holding onto furniture!  I'm amazed at how quickly he is developing!  Ok, gotta go!

Mama Bear... more like "Nanny Bear"

Today, I had a taste of what it's like for a mother to want to protect her child.  I took Little Man and Sunshine to the park for a little bit, though Little Man couldn't do much, except sit on the ground and look at the rubber mulch.  Sunshine, however, had a run-in with a little boy who decided it was ok to kick an almost-3-yr-old in the shin... multiple times... I was sitting on the sidewalk, Little Man was in front of me, on the ground, and Sunshine went to go on one of the slides.  I posted on facebook that I was at the park with the kids and how much I loved hearing Sunshine's laughter, though silently I was thinking about how much it would suck if Sunshine ended up getting hurt and crying.......  Well, I looked up to see her running to me, red-faced, tears streaming from her eyes!  She told me a "little guy" hurt her.  I held her for a few minutes, gave her some words of encouragement, and she ran off to the slide again.  This time, I watched her run to the slide, and saw a little boy walk up to her, no words exchanged, and kicked her in her shin... TWICE!  She started crying and running toward me again.  I lost it.  I picked up Little Man, walked right past Sunshine to the slide, where the little boy had gone up the ladder.  I made the motion with my finger for him to come down the slide, and he just sat there, so I said, "Why did you kick this little girl?  What possible reason could you have had for kicking her?"  When he didn't respond, I said, "I'm waiting..."  This kid was visibly nervous.  He looked at me and mumbled, "I don't remember."  I replied, "That's because you had no reason!  You do NOT kick other children!"  I turned around, took Sunshine's hand, and began walking to the swings.  A lady with a baby strapped to her walked by and asked if the little boy in the blue shirt hurt the girl holding my hand.  I said, "Yes, three times" (one of the times was the one I didn't see).  She went to the slide, made the boy come down, had him sit in time-out, then dragged him over to apologize to Sunshine.

For those few minutes when I was letting that little boy have it, I saw red.  How dare he mess with MY little girl (not actually MINE, but the girl I babysit for)... I could finally understand why my Dad had me kick an oversized throw pillow around our kitchen when I was a kid, bc some girl kept kicking me at the bus stop... Daddy wanted me to fight back, but I never did.

I keep getting little tastes of what it will be like to be a mom.  The only thing I haven't experienced is the overnight deal, but that will come when I have my own babies.

I just wanted to get my interesting day out.  That's all for now!

Updates

No real title for this one...

My blog looks like a hot mess at the moment because the person who custom-designed my stuff has deleted her account with photobucket, and I was too much of a doofus to save the images myself!  (Won't make that mistake again!)  So please bear with me while I get a new look for my blog!


Mom and I went to a funeral, yesterday.  It was for the mother of a dear friend of my mom's.  We realized, after the service began, that it was a bit too soon for us.  Mom got misty, which got me going as well.  NOT FUN AT ALL!  We got through it, but it was almost too much to stand.  We kept thinking about Daddy, and the pain crept in.

Ok, that's the only down part of the post!

On the wedding front: we have selected a florist!  I'm very excited about the design ideas he had for my wedding!  I'm planning on going dress shopping next weekend, which will be exciting!  So, we now have the church, reception site, and a florist booked... now for a DJ!  Travis and I really like one guy that we've read about.  He's not too expensive, and will even allow our guests to request songs, at our discretion.  Trav and I think it will be fun to let people make requests... as long as the Electric Slide isn't played.  I don't give a rat's patootie what anyone says!  NO ELECTRIC SLIDE!!!!!!!!!  Bust out the Cha Cha Slide, I don't care... just not that damn Electric Slide!  It was a song we danced to in elementary school, and I will NOT have it played at my reception!

March 3rd, Travis, mom, and I will go for a cake tasting at one of the local bakeries.  We're going to look into a few others, as well.  I'm way excited about this part of the planning, haha!  I already know I want a marble cake, but I just need to figure out the frosting....

The color scheme at the reception will be pink and baby green.  My bouquet will have tube roses, for sure, along with a couple of other lovely scented flowers.  We're even going to have a boutineer made to place at my Dad's niche, and Trav is going to make a tuxedo out of construction paper to go over Dad's plaque!  We still plan on having our pictures taken at his niche after the wedding.

The three flower girls have been selected and approved by their respective parents, and I am beyond pleased to say that the little girl I Nanny for (Sunshine) is going to be one of them!!!  :)  She is so happy! I absolutely love that girl!

Speaking of Nannying, Little Man is EVERYWHERE!!!  He pulls up and has begun to try walking while holding on to the couch of coffee table, whichever one he has his hands on.  I swear, this boy is going to be walking by 9 months!  (He's barely 7 and a half months old!)  He's so cute, and Sunshine is super sweet with him!  She loves her little brother, and tells me so every time I'm at their house!

I need to figure out what we're going to do tomorrow...  Monday's are fun because I have both kids all day... last week we went to the park...  Maybe tomorrow we can hit the library.  If I had the money I would take them to Discovery Place, but alas, I'm somewhat broke!

I have a nasty cold!  It started as a head cold with sinus pressure that felt like my head was going to burst, but now it's moved into my chest as a cough that is making me lose my voice (though some may view that as a good thing...) ;)  It's not fun, especially since it's a dry cough that makes my chest hurt whenever I cough.  I got it from the kids, and I know this because Sunshine was hacking up a lung last week, and was all in my face with hugs and kisses (I'm NOT complaining!)...  Vitamin C and Mucinex is the name of the game, along with massive hand-washing!  I hope I feel better soon, I hate being kept up late from hacking!

That's all I have for now!  Again, my blog is now considered "under construction" until I can get a decent theme!

Just over 5 months until I become Mrs. Phifer!!!

Little Man can pull up!

Little Man pulled up for the first time, today!!!  He was sitting on the floor, beside/under the coffee, and was reaching for one of his toys that I had strategically placed, and used both arms to pull himself from sitting to almost standing!  He began to move one leg to give himself more support, but fell back on his bottom.  He spent the next 20 minutes between the couch and the coffee table, trying to pull himself up again, but then decided to climb up my legs instead.  I pulled him onto the couch with me and he played on the throw pillows for the next few mins.  He was looking at me and laughing like crazy!!!  It was so cute!

I can't believe how fast he's growing.  Only 7 months old and he's crawling all over and trying to pull himself up!  He's a very happy baby when he's not hungry or sleepy and I absolutely love him!  His sister, who will now go by Sunshine (bc she's a little ray of sunshine), is also developing.  It's not as obvious as Little Man, but I can see it as the days pass.  She's got a great memory is very smart!  I love to sit and read to her, though she knows many of her books by heart.  She is also full of wonder - asking, "why" for EVERYTHING!  It can get annoying, but I try to remember that she is only 2 (almost 3) and wants to learn about why or why not something does or does not occur.  I just adore her!

Travis and I want Sunshine to be in our wedding.  It looks like I'm going to have 3 flower girls, which will be interesting!  I'm not too worried.  As of tomorrow (Tuesday), we will officially have our reception site booked!  I'm way excited!!!  Let the planning begin!!!!!

Daddy's Wedding Gifts

I think Daddy was manipulating the Bingo cards, last night!  Yeah, we play Bingo with some of Dad's old buddies once a month :)  Anyway, the prizes were all Valentine's Day related, and there were three things I wanted:  free private dance lessons, a chocolate fondue set, and a waffle maker.  The reason for the dance lessons is that Trav doesn't want to just sway during our first dance as a married couple, and we'd been talking for a couple of weeks about taking dance lessons.  Before Bingo started, the lady calling the numbers made an announcement to "congratulate Travis and Jessica on their recent engagement."  We stood up and had a quick kiss before we sat back down.  Oh, and I got my ring last night, as well!!!

So bingo started, and I had my eye on the three prizes... Well, guess what... TRAVIS WON THE DANCE LESSONS!  We got 5 free private lessons :)  I was way excited about that!  Then I won the chocolate fondue set!  We didn't get the waffle maker, but I wasn't too sad about that :)

At about 5:30 this morning, I woke up to a thunderstorm!  I was very happy about that :)

I think Daddy decided to show us how happy he was :) and I'm so glad he did :)

So here I am, looking at my beautiful diamond on my hand, thankful for all I've been blessed with!!!

The date is set!!!

On July 23, 2011, Travis and I will be getting married!!!!!  We will wed at our church, then head to a hotel near my house for the reception.

I think Travis and I may walk to the columbarium (at the church) and take a moment to visit my Dad's niche and talk to him.  It will be difficult not having my Daddy or Nonnie at the wedding, but with Travis by my side, I will get through it!

There isn't much time between now and July 23, but we are ready to meet the challenge so we can start our life together as husband and wife!  I am the luckiest girl on earth!

As far as a honeymoon goes, we aren't planning on going out of country yet.  We are thinking of driving to someplace on the coast to spend a week.  I'm hoping for Charleston, SC.  I haven't been there since I was 17, and I miss it!!!

I'll certainly be documenting the planning on here... it will be fun to look back and see the days that led up to our big day!